Anyone who has experienced infertility will tell you: it’s a rollercoaster. Whether you are involved in infertility treatment, or dealing with monthly cycles, it is seems inevitable that you will ride the waves of hope and disappointment.
No doubt, this is a difficult process. But there is something that makes it even harder than it needs to be: the story you tell yourself about your suffering.
For example, think back on a time when you suffered a loss or a setback. What story did you tell yourself about it? Was it filled with self-recrimination, criticism, negativity, fears of the future? If it was, your not alone. That’s the way it is for most people.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Underneath your story lies is the truth of your experience, waiting to be listened to, waiting to be embraced.
Here’s a way to access this truth. The next time you are in a place of loss, take some time to be alone and quiet. Focus on your breathing. If your mind is rambling on your story, just notice it, and say, “Yes, there is the story.” Then put your attention on your body. Notice any places that are tight, uncomfortable, painful.. Breathe into those places, and let it be what it is. Then imagine something or someone you love unconditionally. Let your heart fill with that love, and then place that feeling in the place your hurting. Love that hurt in the same way. Continue for a minute or two.
Now notice your experience.
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That is so true! We tend to make our bad time seem a that much worse when we tell that story to ourselves. We forget the good parts of it. Like Cami said yesterday. Her infertility was a blessing, even though it was painful and hard. We need to look for those blessings, as hard as it is sometimes.
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